Good Sex Lasts Minutes, Not Hours
Research at Penn State Erie has shown that satisfactory sexual intercourse lasts from 3 to 13 minutes.
In order to determine this, the researchers surveyed 50 full members of the Society for Sex Therapy and Research, which include psychologists, physicians, social workers, marriage/family therapists, and nurses who have collectively seen thousands of patients over several decades.
The participants assessed a range of time for sexual intercourse that they considered adequate, desirable, too short, and too long. The results were that “adequate” was considered 3-7 minutes, “desirable” was 7-13 minutes, “too short” was 1-2 minutes, and “too long” was 10-30 minutes.
These results are contrary to the popular belief that hours are required for sexual intercourse to be considered “good” or “great”. I think that what is “good” or “great” for one couple is up to them. If it takes just a few minutes, then that is good for them. If more time is required, then that is good too. I think communication and honesty is vital for a healthy sex life.
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It depends on what you are after doesn’t it, and a quicky can be as satisfying as a marathon.
However, as with most things, the anticipation is often as good as the actual happening. So sex over a long time builds up the anticipation!
Whatever circumstance permits, I feel that all the options were at least feasible on some circumstance, despite how marginal. Sex is a lovely and glorious hobby that can sometimes be engaged more intimately (the possibilities are endless for what this could manifest into)….The point? Sex if and while you can, just be safe about it.
Thanks for the comments. Good point about the anticipation.
I also agree that all of the options can be good depending on the circumstance.
Also, bad sex is better than no sex, right?
I dont know why I am saying this…but I have ridiculously thick penis…the grith measurement is around 6.1 to 6.3 inches..depending on different times that the measurement is taken…The length is too short considering the thickness..it hangs at around 6.2 to 6.3 depending on the measurement…I f there are any girls reading this…tell me..is it a good thing or a bad thing…My girlfriends says it is good, but I feel inferior complex because of the akward measurements…
Measurements. 15.9 cm from pubic bone to edge of penis along the top
15.7 cm for the grith measured at three places…average grith is supposed to be 4.7in to 5.4 in..what do i do…
complex……..i don’t know why i am saying this…but your full of shit. And really we women don’t care so much about your penis size. it really doesn’t matter.
as far as the act of penetration goes, yeah, but the prelude, can go on for hours, but maybe that’s just me. Building the anticipation and the physical and spiritual connection that comes from touch adds to the feeling of intimacy that simple in and out do not provide.
Thanks for the comments. I appreciate the input from the women.
Oh about the entire penis size thing…….yes we actually do care, but we care more about girth then anything else, not length…. and as far as this article. I personally believe it to be complete crap. I personally don’t get off on anything LESS then 45-70 minutes.
AHHHH i’m so tired of hearing women say “it’ts not length, it’s girth.”!!! if that were true, the perfect penis shape would be a tuna can! (can’t take credit for that, i heard it from a stand up comedian.) you can have a short, skinny penis and still satisfy a woman sexually. if a woman refuses to date you because you have a small penis, you’re better off without her.
You know that in it self is very fair susieQ…. IT does actually matter. why do you think more females buy the fatter vibes then the super small ones? I’ve personally had many penises they ranged from all sizes, I got more pleasure out of the thicker ones then the skinny ones. And if you are the type of female who can be pleasured more from a small one. then congrats you are one of the lucky few. But for most of us, hell you can get a bunch of girls together in a survey. they will in fact agree that the girth is what does matter.
Haha, no.. bad sex is NOT better than no sex at all. If I had a choice to abstain for life or sleep with a partner who was a horrible lover (garunteed he’d never improve) I’d choose abstaining. Sorry, but this thing simply isn’t true for me. Quickies can be fun if you’re running short on time… but normally for me a quickie is just round one. I’m enjoying it even after I start to hurt from it… thats just me…
My boyfriends dick is an average length.. nothing special.. but it gets thick too and i love it! think it’s awesome. skinny long dicks tend to hit me in the wrong way and hurt like hell. and skinny short dicks just can’t even be felt sometimes. they could be pounding it out and i won’t feel a thing. just my two cents.
Exactly swayla, I cant feel most penis even if it is thick, its not that im loose, but I hardly have any sensation down there, so they to hit me the wrong way.
i have made love for 3 hours once and it was the best sex i had ever had…so i think depending on who you are the length of sex can be good or bad for different people
Thanks for the comments. Everyone is different and requires a different amount of time to be satisfied. This amount of time may also change each encounter.
The research only examined length of sexual intercourse, and did not include foreplay.
I think quality, communication, and variety count for far more than discrete duration measurements – both for foreplay and intercourse. I’m also wondering how this study can be reliable or valid if it’s relying on self-reports of time? I mean, how many people are setting their stopwatches to measure how long intercourse officially takes, from start to finish? I’ve noticed that sexual encounters generally involve entering a “delta state” where the outside world falls away and time becomes meaningless.
My advice for good sex, then, is to stop looking at your freaking watch and give yourself over to the moment. Which I think may have been the author’s intention when conveying that satisfying sex can involve minutes rather than hours. Sure, as Floy has mentioned, there can be individual variation, but for those of us who don’t require marathon sessions to obtain satisfying results, there should be no need to feel inadequate or as if we aren’t “doing it right.”
WOW…… I must say I love passion and making love. I also have what some woman have called a rot whiler (sp? a wide one has been a problem w some ladies) My problem has always been lasting.
I would love to go three hours….two hours…. one hour….15 minutes…..10 minutes……..
I have never been able to last long!!!! Is there any help for me and my wife???
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Also if you are uncircumcised ive noticed that there is a big problem like that with those men. and ive found with my boyfriend the numbing creams work really well, when he uses them he can go from 45 mins to 1 and a half hrs. so good luck on your search for lasting longer.
I agree with “your mom”: measures have no meaning. Particulary males are too many times scared by measures. I, as a woman, need a good foreplay time instead of a long intercourse duration.
I remember when my man two years ago, bought wrongly retardant condoms. But I don’t remeber better, more exciting or more satisfying love moments… those condoms are still in a drawer…
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i love sex. i enjoy my baby cumming inside me. damnn it feels so good! but on the other hand we arent being responsible. condums doesnt feel goood for me.. i have very sensitive vagina. i could feel it when hes pushing up against me. &i get this sensational, tingly feeling.. it just feels so right!
Sex is a very individual thing. What works for one may not be any good for someone else. Some people may just need a few minutes while others need hours to get where they are going. When a couple has different “bedroom needs”. it is a good idea to add toys, videos, lingerie etc to elongate the process. check out http://www.loversplayland.com
Haha SusieQ, “if that were true, the perfect penis shape would be a tuna can!” – that is hilarious. Im a 26 yr old guy and my personal favorite duration is 10-20 min. My girl likes it a little longer sometimes if she’s in the mood so i make sure i show her what time it is lol
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short sexual intercourse or “quicky’ isn’t that much of an exciting experinece. Well, it depends on the scenario of course. Besides, couple knows exactly what they want and for how long to make the moment exciting and memorable.
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I like it when it last for 20 to 30 minutes minimum. The best is when you lose yourself and are one with your partner.
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I’m curious as to whether all 50 participants were older men who no longer had the stamina to prolong intercourse for hours.
And does this 3 to 7 minutes include or exclude foreplay?
If so, is 6.5 minutes of foreplay and 30 seconds of actual intercourse ideal?
Interesting findings.
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Damn, this game is kind of boring. I rather play tetris. lol
I think it depends from couple to couple. As it is rightly said, communication and honesty is vital for a healthy sex life.
While you say communication is vital for healthy sex, I think what’s vital is anal.
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Making love can take hours.
Having intercourse can last from few seconds to few minutes.
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I agree good sex lasts minutes not hours.
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?nice post 
Wow Clive! That’s really out there!
It depends on the proportion of males to females surveyed. Most men would rather have a “quickie”. Most females consider a “four-course meal” appetizing!. (puns intended)
Most Men do not prefer a quickie (accept over lunch breaks!). But at the same time we prefer not having 6 hours of foreplay either and the longer women hold out the faster he’s going to cum once you finally start having sex. Want him to last longer? Do it with him more often.
It would seem some on here confuse foreplay with intercourse. I for one like the whole thing to last a few hours when there is time for it. My wife prefers to keep things under one hour from first start (of foreplay) to when she is finished which rarely lasts over an hour or she starts feeling like she is wasting time. My wife is a workaholic even with her free time.
Many women, even those who think they understand sex and men, don’t realize that although they may require more time to warm up men do not and once you touch us intimately we are there if we find you sexually attractive It’s not personal.
Averaging out once most people are fully aroused the time from intercourse to completion is about the same if both are properly aroused. The problem is men don’t realize how to keep you from getting him to that point too fast and women get too active on him before allowing themselves to be equally aroused. Men seem faster because once you start on our penis, you’ve in essence started sex, where women may want more emotional engagement and touching they often go for the penis too early and seem not to understand why he is getting off too early. Want you man to last longer, take it easy on how and when you touch him and hold off working his penis until your more aroused. It will both drive him crazy and help him “last” longer to match up better with however long you need to warm up.
All this seems more conjecture than actual scientific research.
I LOVE A MAN THAT KNOWS HPW TO MAKE LOVE FOR HOURS, NOT ONE THAT IS ONLY CONCERNED ABOUT GETTING HIMSELF OFF. YES, THE LENGTH AND SIZE DOES MATTER. IF I CANT FEEL IT, WHY WOULD I WANT IT. VIBRATORS CAN GET YOU OFF. WOMEN LIKE TO BE LOVED.
BAD SEX IS NO SEX. WHO ARE YOU FOOLING.
I CAN AGREE WITH HOLLYWOOD, MAKING LOVE LAST FOR HOURS, PUT ON SOME SLOW ROMANTIC MUSIC AND GO FOR IT. INTERCOURSE LAST FOR A FEW MIN OR SEC. THIS IS SOMEONE JUST TRYING TO GET A NUT!
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